The bar is where you’ll come across a slew of bad pick-up lines, spilled cocktails, and approaches too bold sometimes. If you too are thinking of doing something bold, for example, asking a girl out, you need to be extra, extra careful. There’s a thin line between being charming and downright cringe. And we’re sure you don’t want to end up stumbling into the latter territory. So, before you channel your inner Romeo and make it a little worse for yourself, here’s us telling you about 5 cringey bar moves that deserve to be shown the door. We’ll tell you what to do instead!
5 Cringey Bar Moves To Avoid And What To Do Instead
The “Interrupt Her Girls’ Night” Move
Ideally, the best way of asking a girl out in a bar is to not ask her out! Why, you may ask? Well, chances are she’s at the bar just to have some fun with her girlfriends! And let us tell you that girls take their girls’ nights very seriously. If you were to interrupt them for your pick up move, it’d be like photobombing a well-going conversation.
If you notice that a girl is with her friends and they’re all together for most of the time, take your cue to step away. However, if she makes eye contact with you and/or steps away from her squad, you can approach her. But remember, if she’s here with her girls, she’d rather be with her girls than a guy!
The Alpha Bro Move
Come on, we all know at least one guy, who is a self-proclaimed alpha dudebro. His charm definitely pleases his male friends but when it comes to making a real move at the bar, he can go awfully wrong. If you’re that guy, let us tell you to keep your ‘confidence’ out of the bar. No girl will likely fall for your half-unbuttoned shirt, puffed up biceps, or a move like “What’s a girl like you doing without me at the bar?” This will only guarantee one thing: Instant rejection.
Instead, approach with a relaxed body language and flash a ‘light’, friendly smile. Try to strike a conversation. If you realize that she’s You already might have the looks, but remember that personality and talking skills are what often impress girls (or anyone in general).
The Cheesy Pick Up Line Move
We are in 2025, but there are some pick up lines that should’ve died a slow death in the 2010s. However, they didn’t – there are plenty of men who still can’t help but use cheesy pick up lines. Girls are there at the bar to have a good time and we don’t think a cheesy pick up line will make it better for them. So, when you’re at the bar, avoid using the same old cheesy, overused, outdated pick up lines – because they sound more like dad jokes today!
Instead, start a real conversation. Begin with a small talk but slowly make it real and conversational. If you can’t think of things to talk about, ask her about things she recommends. That way, you can keep her engaged in the conversation and not come across as lame or unoriginal.
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The “Let Me Buy You A Drink So You Owe Me” Move
Let’s be real, we’re not in a romcom movie where sending a free drink to a girl will make her go head over heels for you. If she’s at the bar, she can definitely buy herself a drink! Gone are the days when sending over a drink with a smug nod meant that the girl will owe you undivided attention in return. You sent her a drink – because you thought so and not because she asked for it. So, why would she owe you a sweet response in return?
When you pull out this move, you are simply making the experience awkward and transactional for the both of you. And we bet you don’t want that to happen. Nobody wants to feel like they’ve to drag themself across the bar to talk to someone just because they paid for a 500-rupee cocktail. Instead, ask for her consent first. Ask whether she’d like a drink. If she declines, graciously accept it and enjoy the bar vibes. If she accepts, buy the drink to show interest, not as a ticket to earn something in return.
The Delusional Dude Move
‘Delulu is the solulu’ might be a good catchphrase on the internet, but when you become delusional after a few shots, it can easily go downhill. You might think that being delusional and throwing a pick up line like “I think my mom would love you” might impress a girl. But, if we’re being honest, it won’t work. Instead, it will only make it awkward for the both of you!
In your head you might’ve gone from stranger to clinger in 5 seconds, but in reality, you’re – guess what – still a stranger! Instead, make it fun and interesting. Talk about things like music, food, travel, or anything else that shows that you have a personality. Delusional dreams work good only when you’re daydreaming, not when you’re in the bar!
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10 Questions To Avoid Asking A Girl In The Bar
Now that you know about the 5 cringey bar moves, it’s time to know what are the right questions to ask a girl (or a guy) at the bar and what to avoid!
- Tell me about your last relationship/Why did you break up?
- How many people have you dated?
- How much money do you make?
- Why do you drink/eat so much?
- How close are you to your family?
- Why did you not pursue (xyz) instead of (abc)?
- Why did you quit your job?
- Do you have any debt?
- Why do you look a certain way?
- Why are you wearing a certain dress?
10 Questions To Ask Instead
- Do you have any hobbies you enjoy?
- How do you unwind after a long day?
- Do you have any go-to comfort food?
- What kinds of books do you read?
- Do you have any good restaurant recommendations in the city?
- What’s your fondest childhood memory?
- What does your ideal job look like?
- What is the one thing that tops your bucket list?
- What kind of movies do you like watching?
- If your life were a film, what would you name it?
Summing Up
Making the first move is surely intimidating, but with the right intent and approach, you can definitely strike a chord with the person you’re interested in. Remember: Do not mansplain, do not cut them off mid-sentence, do not overdo it, and most importantly, keep it real. Now that you know about 5 cringey bar moves to avoid, it’s time to test the waters and show up to the bar in the right spirit, pun intended!
